Love...

I just was talking to a friend of mine about Love. It can be such an awesome word or such a shitty word if you're not getting it...and even shittier if you should be getting it and aren't. And yes readers...I said shitty! Anyhow, she said something that really got me thinking. "What ever happened to old fashion love? Ya know the kind that didnt involve facebook, myspace, text messages, emails, IM." She told me a story of a friend of hers...Her parents were out of town somewhere and the wife asked her husband to go and grab her shoes from the car. The daughter walked into the room and heard a blow drier going, it was her dad blow drying his wifes shoes. The daughter asked what he was doing. He said that her shoes were cold from being in the car so he wanted to warm them up for her. The daughter just laughed and told her dad that he is wooped. He said that he just really loves her and didn't want her to have cold feet. Now THAT's old fashioned love. Totally selfless and thoughtful. Who in the world do you know that would do that for their spouse? Only the luckiest girl in the world:) Its not that we want someone to actually blow dry our shoes is it? No...but the little things that your loved one just knows that would bring you hapiness...and they do it for you.

I've thought lately alot about what I am looking for and want from the person that I choose to be with. That person will make my hapiness a priority and vise vera. I have had that before in a relationship and it was what made us great. I think that simply making someone's hapiness a priority in your life, helps you steer away from the natural tendency of being selfish and only wanting what makes you happy. Ya know...we all want that out of our spouse, significant others, etc...but are we willing to put that same effort into them as well? Thats the golden question I think. Just like the golden rule...do unto others blah blah... but the golden question...are you willing to do unto others blah blah?

We live in such hard times where everyone is becoming so selfish and self serving. If it doesn't benefit me, why should I do it? It makes it tough to find someone that will just love you and ONLY you. We have so many distractions that entice us or throw us off from giving to the person that we love the most and the best parts of us.

I have such admiration and respect for little old couples that have made it work for years and years on end. I was driving back from Vegas a while back and drove past a car that had 2 bumper stickers on it. On the left bumper it said, "I love my wife" and the right bumper said, "I love my husband". As we approached the car we looked over and it was a little old man and lady in the front. It was so touching and so cute! I can only hope to find that kind of love that will last and grow old with me...through all the ups and downs, the wrinkles and age spots (all of which I am planning on combating with my esthetics career!)

I am excited for the day that I get to be so in love and be loved in return that I get to declare my love for my little old husband on a bumper sticker of my car for all to see.